Monthly Archives: June 2016

We are on a spectrum

Joaquin Tenedora-Forte

June 30,2016

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This week my mom was watching Kapuso Mo Jessica Soho a Philippine magazine show, and there is this couple, who are deaf, who looks so cute. My mom made a comment about the guy and and told me: Oh he is X-gay. As a LGBT rights activist. I said to myself, NO he is not, he is just bisexual.

This person is not gay, he maybe bisexual or even straight. Not all cross dressers are gay. Gender expression is different than sexual orientation, its in different sides of our brains. You can be a heterosexual person who likes wearing clothing that are for girls from time to time. And furthermore their are gay men who have nothing to do with girl clothes.

As we all probably know their is this thing called the Kinsey Scale of Sexuality. It was created in 1948 by an American Psychologist name Alfred Kinsey. It was very revolutionary though because back in the 1940’s being not heterosexual is a crime.

The Kinsey scale is from zero which is exclusively heterosexual, to six which is exclusively homosexual. Kinsey notice that most of the people in his study are somewhere in between. And that a little over ten percent are exclusively homosexual. And that you can not change your sexuality.

So why does this person identify as gay, if he is bi or even straight. This person is who he says he is. If you came from a small town with no access to the internet. You may not know about being bisexual. Gender Identity is different than sexual orientation. As I stated earlier, People who like to wear dresses does not equate to being gay.

Lastly, being LGBT is not a choice, that you made, being LGBT is inborn. And no one can change people sexual orientation, its like just being straight.

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Marriage Equality: One Year Later

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June 28, 2016

As we know June 26 marks the historic decision of the Supreme Court, that brought down same sex marriage bans. Making it so Lesbian, Gay and Bisexual people have the same rights as every person does, in marriage. The question becomes, what’s next?

 

Do not get me wrong. the LGBT community had made their biggest strive. Marriage equality can not be change for now. But there is some smaller fights that needed to be won.

As we all probably know in twenty plus states had no protection, what so ever, for its gay and lesbian citizens. You can get married on Saturday, post on FaceBook on Sunday and get fired on Monday. That is why the passage of the employment and housing non discrimination is so important. So that gay and lesbian people, (and Bisexual people in a same sex relationship) will never go through discrimination.

After the US got marriage for gay, lesbian and bisexual citizens it became less acceptable to discriminate agains Gay and Bisexual people. It became okay to discriminate agains Transgender people in the bathroom. Conservatives states like North Carolina pass laws that state that people should go to the bathroom of their birth and not as they identify as. how will this be implemented. I DO NOT KNOW. What about the FTM or female to male transgender.

I will not finish this article without tackling the big elephant in the room, What happened in Orlando two weeks ago which killed 49 souls is one of the biggest thing that happened to the gay community, and one of the worst hate crimes in US history. What should the LGBT community need to do to combat hate is to come out of the closet, the more LGBT people the general population knows the less chance for the community to get attack.

Lastly, The LGBT community had injured a lot of things in the process of coming in to this point. Finally, lets combat hate by love, and loving everyone not just white gay men, but every buddy else.

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Reacting to Will Shepherd’s PTSD video

Joaquin Tenedora-Forte
June 23, 2016

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I have been meaning to write this article/letter since last week. But Because of what happen in Orlando. I delay it. Will Shepherd had been a huge part of my life for the last year. He and his spouse RJ thought me that fighting for gay rights is the right thing to do. Will has PTSD and will be suffering from a mental illness for his entire life. This is my letter of appreciation to Will.
Dear Will,

First of all, I want to say that I have daily vlogs withdrawal for a month now, haha. But I know that you are at a better place right now. Because of your PTSD you may have a hard time vlogging. I know that this is the right thing to do for you.

You and RJ have shared bits and pieces of your mental health journey in the daily vlogs. But we (your viewers) did not know how much you suffer in the hands of somebody who supposed to love and protect you.

The PTSD video is so powerful and painful at the same time. I applaud your honesty in the video. I may not have PTSD, but I know that the abuse that you encountered is no joke. The people who new must protect you. The person who did it should go to prison.

Will, Your a such a strong person. Many people might say, screw it I am not dealing with this I will not excel at school or worse I will just take my own life, no one cares if I die.But with you, you own your happiness, that is what is great about you.

I just want to thank you for what you did, the video for me is one of the best I ever seen in a long while. Also for the daily vlogs. You thought me to be brave and to own my happiness.

Send my love to RJ

Love
JOAQUIN

PS, You should really change your last name to Aguiar

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Second Amendment: Hidden History

Joaquin Tenedora-Forte

June 21, 2016

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Last week america had an incident,the worst mass shooting in its history and the worst terrorist attack since September 11, 2001. In Orlando Florida,  in a LGBT night club. Naturally people blame the second amendment and america’s lacks gun laws in this incident. In todays blog we are talking about the hidden history of the gun amendment also known as the second amendment.

I did not know this I just heard this on Kyle Kulinski’s show Secular Talk a radio show on the internet last week. He mention that the second amendment is use to preserve slavery. Wow. I can not get that out of my mind. Obviously I rush to the internet and research the history of this amendment, to my surprise Kyle is right.

So why is it that they put “a well regulated  militia necessary for a free state” instead of for a free country, the founders are aware of that though. (Please check out the 10th amendment) because the needed to preserve slavery to get Virginia to join the union, America needed to compromise, because Virginia is a slave state.

The line where there is the right of the people to keep and bare arms is use, to the people of the militia or slave patrol, it did not say individual. In the these states their’s slave patrol so you need guns. The slave owner wants to make sure that that there slaves are in check. Do not tell me that it says individual because it does not.

What the supreme court on the case District of Columbia vs Heller is wrong, because people do not have a right to buy guns. The justices give the gun lobby namely the NRA more power than it deserves. You have no right according to James Madison to a weapon of mass distraction.

Lastly, people died in an elementary school,  in a high school, in universities, in a movie theatre, a church, in a work place, now the latest is in a night club. Is this added to Americas great traditions.

Finally, What the heck! america. Please stop with all the shootings. Let us think of people that died, guys. To the senators who voted NO to basically stoping a shooting like this from ever happening again: YOU HAVE BLOOD ON YOUR HANDS.`

My source:The Second Amendment was Ratified to Preserve Slavery

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WE ARE ORLANDO

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The culture is what fuels this….

Joaquin Tenedora-Forte

June 16, 2016

As you probably know by now there have been a shooting in a gay bar in Orlando Florida Sunday 12 June, which killed 49 individuals. This is the worst mass shooting in American History and the worst terrorist attack since 9/11. As the LGBT community morns the loss of its members. We as a people need to talk about the culture.

Sunday evening, I was watching liberal talker Ceynk Uger of The Young Turks, talking about the massacre and he said an interesting point about the American culture, that the american culture for the most part is anti gay. That the bible has done more harm than good in the lives of the people.

What I mean of that is religion affects mass media and politics, (i hope it did not affect) because America is a secular nation, Since recently the News outlets did not paint the LGBT community in the lightest of brush In movies they are always the laughing stuck from the 60s thru the late 1990s. Even liberal hollywood fall prey to this massive homophobia for off course their profit. No wonder their are people who think that the LGBT community is wrong.

Let us not forget that this culture in his home because according to at least one website he had went to the night club, and he have an account in one dating app. He might be gay or bisexual, and the thing is I felt so sad after I read this, because this is what fuels the kind of rhetoric that certainly is about hate in america and beyond.

This is why crazy people should not obtain a gun, The problem of guns in america is the worse I ever did see, Its gun deaths are off the charts, because they just have politicians who will defend the second amendment to death. Even if as we all know that is what the second amendment is. And then there is Donald Trump what can I say, he is a really bad person.

People died during the deadliest gun massacre in american history. I want to list their names. These are friends. brothers, sisters, This is about the victims not the suspect

Do not FORGET:

Stanley Almodovar III, 23 years old

Amanda Alvear, 25 years old

Oscar A Aracena-Montero, 26 years old

Rodolfo Ayala-Ayala, 33 years old

Antonio Davon Brown, 29 years old

Darryl Roman Burt II, 29 years old

Angel L. Candelario-Padro, 28 years old

Juan Chevez-Martinez, 25 years old

Luis Daniel Conde, 39 years old

Cory James Connell, 21 years old

Tevin Eugene Crosby, 25 years old

Deonka Deidra Drayton, 32 years old

Simon Adrian Carrillo Fernandez, 31 years old

Leroy Valentin Fernandez, 25 years old

Mercedez Marisol Flores, 26 years old

Peter O. Gonzalez-Cruz, 22 years old

Juan Ramon Guerrero, 22 years old

Paul Terrell Henry, 41 years old

Frank Hernandez, 27 years old

Miguel Angel Honorato, 30 years old

Javier Jorge-Reyes, 40 years old

Jason Benjamin Josaphat, 19 years old

Eddie Jamoldroy Justice, 30 years old

Anthony Luis Laureanodisla, 25 years old

Christopher Andrew Leinonen, 32 years old

Alejandro Barrios Martinez, 21 years old

Brenda Lee Marquez McCool, 49 years old

Gilberto Ramon Silva Menendez, 25 years old

Kimberly Morris, 37 years old

Akyra Monet Murray, 18 years old

Luis Omar Ocasio-Capo, 20 years old

Geraldo A. Ortiz-Jimenez, 25 years old

Eric Ivan Ortiz-Rivera, 36 years old

Joel Rayon Paniagua, 32 years old

Jean Carlos Mendez Perez, 35 years old

Enrique L. Rios, Jr., 25 years old

Jean C. Nives Rodriguez, 27 years old

Xavier Emmanuel Serrano Rosado, 35 years old

Christopher Joseph Sanfeliz, 24 years old

Yilmary Rodriguez Solivan, 24 years old

Edward Sotomayor Jr., 34 years old

Shane Evan Tomlinson, 33 years old

Martin Benitez Torres, 33 years old

Jonathan Antonio Camuy Vega, 24 years old

Juan P. Rivera Velazquez, 37 years old

Luis S. Vielma, 22 years old

Franky Jimmy Dejesus Velazquez, 50 years old

Luis Daniel Wilson-Leon, 37 years old

Jerald Arthur Wright, 31 years old

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America: Stop with all the shootings

Joaquin Tenedora-Forte

June 14, 2016

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When something like this happened, I am become completely numb about shootings like this, it’s just another shooting in america. This one is no deferent at first, Sunday morning I was checking my twitter. I saw there have been another shooting in orlando. Not again I said to my self, This is like deja vu because there is one Friday night, But as I read the twits, the news: I said to my self WOW this is unbelievable. 50 people are dead Wow, What is unsettling is who the victims are. This is in a gay club. Wow

The question always when this happen is Why? This is a hate crime, this person wants to bring fear to the gay community. His father said he hated gays kissing. This is one of the effects of radical religious believe, even if its not direct. People need to stop defending islam.

I hate when people say: Oh its there culture blah blah blah. You mean it’s there culture to kill innocent people because they do not agree with their “LIFESTYLE”. I hate this so much, this well meaning people, this are liberal progressive people. I know muslims have a bad wrap in america, but duh….

Do not get me started on the gun issue, Here we go again, America, after the Sandy Hook shootings which killed young kids, I thought the lesson had been learned. We need it, but as we all know the NRA will not be happy. What we need is what Bernie Sanders advocates for, A POLITICAL REVOLUTION. To people who say the we can not do it because gun control, Republicans do not want it, excuse me, people who identify as Republicans, I mean your run of a mill republicans want gun control.

The problem is the Democratic Party, Who does not know how to promote shit (sorry for the vulgar language). I can not believe  after Sandy Hook and 90 percent of Americans support gun control. After only one try they gave up. What the heck! If I were the democrats I would say to the electorate look at the republicans, they do not represent you, and I will start from there.

Finally, This is very sad because first this month is LGBT pride month and it should be a fun occasion but secondly this hits so close to home,  I never had spoken about this before on this blog but I am Bisexual. People need to come out because if they do it will help the send a message that we are who we and are no one can stop us.

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5 Important LGBT events

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Joquin Tenedora-Forte

June 9, 2016

As we all probably know this month is LGBT pride month. We are celebrating LGBT history, It is this month that we talk about what happen during the marriage inequality. we do answer where we are today if it’s not for the people who sacrifice in order for us to live our life as it is. so I am here to discuss three major events that happened in LGBT history.

  1. Stonewall uprising- Stonewall was not the first uprising of the  gay movement, it was the major one though because it was broadcast all over the america. In the early morning of June 28, 1969, there have been rioting at a gay bar own by the mafia, The police raided the bar, but gay men and women fought back, The next day the cops come again, but the LGBT people fought hard.
  1. AIDS epidemic- The AIDS epidemic is the hardest thing that happened to LGBT people particularly gay men.Because of the erasure of the gay community, by people like President Ronald Reagan who never spoken about the AIDS epidemic until the late 80’s

3.   The election and assignation of Harvey Milk- Harvey Milk is the first     openly gay state supervisor. He was a true leader. But after only a year of he was assented by former state supervisor Dan White.

4. Lawrence Vs. Texas case 2003- This is in my opinion is the most important case in LGBT history, because when you can not legalise some that is illegal to begin with. i.e. same sex marriage. It came one year before Massachusetts became the the first to legalise marriage between two people of the same gender.

5. Marriage equality -2015.,  Obergafell vs Hudges, this is the happiest case in gay history, This is the culmination of four and a half decades of fighting for recognition. Recognition of Life and Love from Stonewall onwards.

So this are five events that change the corse of a generation. What are your favourite LGBT events Tweet me @joaquinwrites. Please you may not forget them….

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My message for the Bernie or Bust People

Joaquin Tenedora-Forte

June 7, 2016

You may probably know about me, I am supporting Bernie Sanders for president, I adore the guy so much, he is the only person I am routing for the presidency . I also know that it is unlikely for him to win the nomination, He need almost seventy percent of the total number of delegates, And that will never happened.

Progressives has hated Hillary Clinton because she is not too progressive enough. But do you want to give Donald Trump the presidency, really people really. Donald Trump is the kind of person who you can not trust the presidency. because you can not control him and his actions or words.

Are you going to in trust Donald Trump with the nukes. I know we all hate Clinton’s rhetoric. She is not progressive enough, Though you need to not be fooled by what Trump is saying, He is just saying it to gain votes from progressives. He is a pathological liar.

So what should progressives do come election day, If you live in a deep progressive state, like New York, New Jersey or California, If you do not want to vote for Hillary Clinton, I will never oblige you to vote for her. because it will go to her anyway. But if you are in swing states like Florida, and Ohio, I urge you to vote for her.

The Supreme Court is on the line. Ginsburg is 82,  Brayer is 76 Kennedy is 76 look at the ages. This is not a joke, if Trump wins he will put people like him in place. I want you to think about this.

Lastly, please do not give the election to Donald Trump, Let us stop him from  ever winning the White House. He is a racist who I do not ever trust with the presidency of the United States.

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LGBT Monday: Shep689, the Will Shepherd and RJ Aguiar story

Joaquin Tenedora-Forte September 28, 2015    There are people from time to time that will change your perspective on life, more than you expected. I know they do not know who I am, but I …

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Happy Pride Month

Pride special: History of LGBT Pride

Joaquin Tenedora-Forte

@joaquinwrites

June 2, 2016

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As we probably know this month, the month of June is LGBT pride month the month when we celebrate LGBT history. And this month I will be writing about the pillars of the Gay Liberation movement.

The term Gay Pride came about in the 1940s and 1950’s where in at this point LGBT people are shame. The  gay movement did some annual remainder during the 4th of July celebrations.’

In 1968 the father of the gay rights movement Frank Kamhney, after doing the white house picketing for years, he created a slogan gay is good, pattern after black is beautiful.

The biggest straggle is with the police, for years they made life harder for LGBT people in the 1950’s and 60’s. By 1969 the LGBT community was fed up by police raids, another pivotal thing in New York Greenwich Village happened. LGBT people of all walks of life came together that faithful June early morning to protest the police brutality.

less than a year after the Stonewall riots on November 2, 1969 Craig Rodwell propose that the pride march will be held in New York instead of in Philadelphia like they normally do until that point,  the LGBT community organise a ‘rally’ like the one they used to do, in New York Greenwich village. It was set on June of the next year. The organisers were surprise at the worm welcome by the bystanders at the parade.

Year after year the cities that celebrate pride grow, the first cities to adopt include San Francisco and Chicago. By the year 2000 former President Bill Clinton recognise the LGBT movement in a proclamation. As of today LGBT pride is celebrated in every continent of the globe.

As we celebrate LGBT pride month, we should remember people, people who fought for the freedom to be you.

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