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My thoughts on Prostitution

Joaquin Tenedora-Forte

July 19, 2016

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As a libertarian, I believe in the freedom of the people to choose their paths. No government should say to it’s people, what to do. The only job of the government is to keep people safe at all times. And also as a liberal I totally believe in a government intervention to make people safe, Not like other libertarians. My topic today is prostitution. Here’s what I think about it.

The advancements in technology make it so possible of dating apps. So that the person can come there, find your self a “date” Do your thing, pay and move on with your merry lives. That is what prostitution is. it is the ability to have sex. For all its glory without ever meeting the person again.

In principle, I believe that prostitution (like drugs and everything else) should be legal. Sex work is one of the oldest jobs look up (hoar house) is consensual sex, between two consenting adults. Morally, I do not think that you can just have sex with random people. Sex should with someone you love. So I am so torn on prostitution.

Like I said in a post in February about the golden rule. That consent makes everything okay. It can be doctor assisted suicide or stealing or even sex. It will be okay to do that you do it, as long as you do it with consent. I totally subscribe to that idea. But to be honest, sex should be reserve to people who love each other.

I totally get people who will say that prostitution should be legal,.Because specially when you look at a town outside Las Vegas, Where it is legal the town, has many legal protection for people the STD rates are very low. I see also the point of the people who says that prostitution should be illegal So I am completely and utterly torn on this topic.

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Personal: Good Girls Don’t Wear suits and Ties: My Life As A Gender Non Conforming Person

Joaquin Tenedora-Forte
July 7, 2016

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Human beings have a way to make you feel unwelcome by their glances or their words. Since I was a little kid I did not fit in to the gender box of being a girl, oh by the way I am a girl and also have some people would deem a disability as I wrote on the eve of christmas eve, last year I have cerebral palsy yes double minority, for me that is really hard especially growing up.

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I grew up in a moderately catholic home in the Philippines, my parents with my mom a university professor and my father a businessman, I have one younger sister. my first memory of being gender non-conforming is hating barbie dolls, my knee jerk reaction is that I hated their hair, and I was about four. When I was about six years old my parents bought me mega blocks for my birthday. My sister and I played with it for at least seven years. I was always the boy character in our made-believe land.

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As I grow older I notice, I became more uncomfortable in girls outfits. in fact the last time I wore a dress at the mall is when I was 10 years old.  Also with my school uniform. I always have crushes on my boy classmates, but when I was 13 and in Grade six I became noticing a girl classmate, she is cute and our class valedictorian. I never made something of it.

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Christmas was always been a special day for my family, but their is this one christmas I had vivid memories of. (here’s the deal, Filipinos open gifts on christmas eve,) so I opened my presents, I look at my seven year old nephew’s gifts and I started tearing up, because I never gotten what I wanted but what I wanted is the toys he had. It will be so embarrassing for me to cry so I held my tears up.

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At around fourteen, my baby cousin is two and he began learning his words. As a gender non conforming kid, I was always wearing typical  boy clothing. he will call me Kuya, Kuya is a tagalog word for older  brother, cousin or whatever. Of course my aunt and uncle is not thrilled with me. As if I was confusing their son. looking back on it my responds will be, is their a problem, and you should be teaching your kid about acceptance. But they will never do that because they are evangelical christians.

When I was 16 years old, my school had a prom, my 3rd year in high school. I was not planning on going to this prom because I am not wearing a gown!. My dad ask my principal if I could wear something else. the principal said Yes. And I wore a suit to the prom. When I wore that I felt so good about myself. But years after the prom i fell so ashamed, until recently, I said to myself there is nothing to feel ashamed about, that’s who I am.

 

My family had been so awesome to me especially my mom and my dad  after high school graduation they enrolled me in my mom’s former school, my first reaction (an open university type deal) where in you do your assignments at home and will email it to your teachers, I hated it at first, but today I love the freedom of expression I get from not being a subject to gender norms.

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If I will thank someone who will it be, it will be my grandmother, who when one christmas I was wearing a vest and a tie. And my mom was talking to her about me. She turn to my mom and said. Ning, that’s okay, she looks good. My grandmother is the one who bought me all the boy shirts when I was a kid. She is so awesome.

If I have an advice for people who are like me or who have children like me just let your children be themselves. And the world will catch up with your identities, because you are born this way and people who say is not your friends.

Lastly, to makes things clear the name Joaquin is not my actual birth name but the last name is. since 2 years ago I have been using it. After my sister and I was talking to my dad about names if we were boys he said that he would name me Joaquin, so I started using the name.

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Controversial: My Thoughts On Abortion

 

Joaquin Temedora-Forte
July 5, 2016

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This is a very difficult topic to right about. And a topic that I am avoiding for a pretty long time, because its very controversial in nature. But because of the recent Supreme court ruling, I will write about the topic of abortion.

In this topic I am not your average liberal because I believe in a baby’s right to exist. But I am not like your average conservative because I understand the reason why a mom needs to have one in the first place.
So what do I believe?

We should have sex education first and for most comprehensive not just hush-hush. According to one study girls who live in a place that is liberal has smaller chance of getting pregnant, hands having an abortion. As a progressive I believe that teaching about sex to young people as in 6th graders not first graders, is not only rational but it can also save lives.

If a young woman gets pregnant, she should go see a psychologist and talk things out. And abortion should be the last result. They should talk about adoption or keeping the baby. When the pregnancy is a result of rape, then we have a very different ball game.

From a policy standpoint, I think it should be legal. According to the same study in liberal states or countries had little to non abortions because they have comprehensive sex education for example Germany. I think that banning abortions is a bad idea, because abortion will still happened either which way. As a progressive I believe that when it is rape abortion should always be legal, even after the recommended limit of twenty three weeks.

Lastly, as a progressive I totally believe that comprehensive sex education is the answer to all this things. Finally, abortion is a very contentious topic, for me to write about. and writing about this topic is making me nervous.

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