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The culture is what fuels this….

Joaquin Tenedora-Forte

June 16, 2016

As you probably know by now there have been a shooting in a gay bar in Orlando Florida Sunday 12 June, which killed 49 individuals. This is the worst mass shooting in American History and the worst terrorist attack since 9/11. As the LGBT community morns the loss of its members. We as a people need to talk about the culture.

Sunday evening, I was watching liberal talker Ceynk Uger of The Young Turks, talking about the massacre and he said an interesting point about the American culture, that the american culture for the most part is anti gay. That the bible has done more harm than good in the lives of the people.

What I mean of that is religion affects mass media and politics, (i hope it did not affect) because America is a secular nation, Since recently the News outlets did not paint the LGBT community in the lightest of brush In movies they are always the laughing stuck from the 60s thru the late 1990s. Even liberal hollywood fall prey to this massive homophobia for off course their profit. No wonder their are people who think that the LGBT community is wrong.

Let us not forget that this culture in his home because according to at least one website he had went to the night club, and he have an account in one dating app. He might be gay or bisexual, and the thing is I felt so sad after I read this, because this is what fuels the kind of rhetoric that certainly is about hate in america and beyond.

This is why crazy people should not obtain a gun, The problem of guns in america is the worse I ever did see, Its gun deaths are off the charts, because they just have politicians who will defend the second amendment to death. Even if as we all know that is what the second amendment is. And then there is Donald Trump what can I say, he is a really bad person.

People died during the deadliest gun massacre in american history. I want to list their names. These are friends. brothers, sisters, This is about the victims not the suspect

Do not FORGET:

Stanley Almodovar III, 23 years old

Amanda Alvear, 25 years old

Oscar A Aracena-Montero, 26 years old

Rodolfo Ayala-Ayala, 33 years old

Antonio Davon Brown, 29 years old

Darryl Roman Burt II, 29 years old

Angel L. Candelario-Padro, 28 years old

Juan Chevez-Martinez, 25 years old

Luis Daniel Conde, 39 years old

Cory James Connell, 21 years old

Tevin Eugene Crosby, 25 years old

Deonka Deidra Drayton, 32 years old

Simon Adrian Carrillo Fernandez, 31 years old

Leroy Valentin Fernandez, 25 years old

Mercedez Marisol Flores, 26 years old

Peter O. Gonzalez-Cruz, 22 years old

Juan Ramon Guerrero, 22 years old

Paul Terrell Henry, 41 years old

Frank Hernandez, 27 years old

Miguel Angel Honorato, 30 years old

Javier Jorge-Reyes, 40 years old

Jason Benjamin Josaphat, 19 years old

Eddie Jamoldroy Justice, 30 years old

Anthony Luis Laureanodisla, 25 years old

Christopher Andrew Leinonen, 32 years old

Alejandro Barrios Martinez, 21 years old

Brenda Lee Marquez McCool, 49 years old

Gilberto Ramon Silva Menendez, 25 years old

Kimberly Morris, 37 years old

Akyra Monet Murray, 18 years old

Luis Omar Ocasio-Capo, 20 years old

Geraldo A. Ortiz-Jimenez, 25 years old

Eric Ivan Ortiz-Rivera, 36 years old

Joel Rayon Paniagua, 32 years old

Jean Carlos Mendez Perez, 35 years old

Enrique L. Rios, Jr., 25 years old

Jean C. Nives Rodriguez, 27 years old

Xavier Emmanuel Serrano Rosado, 35 years old

Christopher Joseph Sanfeliz, 24 years old

Yilmary Rodriguez Solivan, 24 years old

Edward Sotomayor Jr., 34 years old

Shane Evan Tomlinson, 33 years old

Martin Benitez Torres, 33 years old

Jonathan Antonio Camuy Vega, 24 years old

Juan P. Rivera Velazquez, 37 years old

Luis S. Vielma, 22 years old

Franky Jimmy Dejesus Velazquez, 50 years old

Luis Daniel Wilson-Leon, 37 years old

Jerald Arthur Wright, 31 years old

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5 Important LGBT events

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Joquin Tenedora-Forte

June 9, 2016

As we all probably know this month is LGBT pride month. We are celebrating LGBT history, It is this month that we talk about what happen during the marriage inequality. we do answer where we are today if it’s not for the people who sacrifice in order for us to live our life as it is. so I am here to discuss three major events that happened in LGBT history.

  1. Stonewall uprising- Stonewall was not the first uprising of the  gay movement, it was the major one though because it was broadcast all over the america. In the early morning of June 28, 1969, there have been rioting at a gay bar own by the mafia, The police raided the bar, but gay men and women fought back, The next day the cops come again, but the LGBT people fought hard.
  1. AIDS epidemic- The AIDS epidemic is the hardest thing that happened to LGBT people particularly gay men.Because of the erasure of the gay community, by people like President Ronald Reagan who never spoken about the AIDS epidemic until the late 80’s

3.   The election and assignation of Harvey Milk- Harvey Milk is the first     openly gay state supervisor. He was a true leader. But after only a year of he was assented by former state supervisor Dan White.

4. Lawrence Vs. Texas case 2003- This is in my opinion is the most important case in LGBT history, because when you can not legalise some that is illegal to begin with. i.e. same sex marriage. It came one year before Massachusetts became the the first to legalise marriage between two people of the same gender.

5. Marriage equality -2015.,  Obergafell vs Hudges, this is the happiest case in gay history, This is the culmination of four and a half decades of fighting for recognition. Recognition of Life and Love from Stonewall onwards.

So this are five events that change the corse of a generation. What are your favourite LGBT events Tweet me @joaquinwrites. Please you may not forget them….

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Personal essay: Why I am not religious 

Joaquin Tenedora-Forte

 January 11, 2016

   

I was born into, and grow up in a moderately religious Catholic household, religion is so much a part of my life. I was confirm. But my mom who is a college professor is open minded enough, that when I told her that I do not want to go to church unless it’s Christmas Eve or Easter, she said no problem. Here are three reasons why I am not religious.

  1. It is not factual: There is a reason why religion is not science, it is just faith. Scientists do not just say things, for example, the theory of evolution; we came from apes. They need to study it, for multiple years or even decades just to say it. In religion they can just say it and then people will believe it, like Adam and Eve.
  2. The Catholic Church child molestation cases: this is really bad, the Catholic Church hid it from plain sight. Pope Benedict XVI never acknowledged that this is happening in the Church, however the current pope, Pope Francis, had apologized to the victims it did not change my thoughts on the matter. Because of their doctrine of abstinence only for their priest, because that is what they believe Jesus is, a virgin. Sex is a part of the human condition. 
  3. I am a liberal: all though I know that a lot of liberals are Christian. What I believe in does not jive with what the church think about for example marriage. I believe that if you love each other you can should be able to get married. I know that the Catholic Church will never allow marriage equality.

Lastly, I want to clear something up, I am not an atheist, I still believe in god, I still pray to God. I do not want to hear some incorrect information. finally. Where do you get your morals from, simple answer the golden rule: Do not do to others as you do not like others to do to you. It just makes perfect sense.

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Happy Birthday Will Shepherd

Joaquin Tenedora-Forte 

January 6, 2016

  
As you probably know that I love a YouTubers Shep689, specially Will Shepherd. And today is Will’s birthday so I want to do some sort of tribute for him. Will is such an amazing, smart young man. He and his fiancé RJ are getting married May of this year. I want to write Will’s life story. Note: this is what I know only.

  
William Ross Shepherd was born in Tallahassee Florida on January 6, 1989, to your average American family. He has an older brother named Bob who is 8 years older than him. As a young boy Will did not want to do normal country stuff like playing sports, He only preferred to play video games and trade Pokemon cards with friends. It alienate him with his father who thought that it was strange.

  
Will’s life at school has not been different. He was a great student but he was also greatly bullied, the kids were being violent at him, pushing him around, this was especially evident at the school bus where he will receive some of the worst touting. It was really rough for him. 

  
In high school at the aged of. 14, he came out of the closet to his friends the bullying stopped instantly. He graduated in the top of his class. He entered Florida State University majoring in mathematics and Statistics. And there he met RJ In the LGBT youth center at campus. 

  
Will was out to his mom since he was 16, but his father did not know. His father wanted Will to come join him at his job. At his resume states he is volunteering at the LGBT youth center. His father began asking questions, they have a big fight about it and become the last straw to break down his parents marriage.

   
 Lastly, Despite all this that happened to him as a young child, he is a positive young person. That is why I love him. Finally, I want to say this, happy birthday Will, best wishes on the wedding

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LGBT Monday: A Year For Equality, A Year To Remember 

Joaquin Tenedora-Forte 

December 28, 2015

On June 26, 2015, the moment gay rights activists in America have been waiting for, the culmination of decades of labor and love. The fight for equal marriage is finally here. It came when the US Supreme Court decided on Obergafell v. Hudges. Justice Anthony Kennedy states that marriage is a foundational institution of such huge importance.

    Looking back on the marriage fight, I am so amazed that young gay people do not know about their own history, they are growing up in an environment that accept and loves them. But back in the dark ages of marriage inequality, there are people who died fighting for the right to be with someone that they love, equal hospital visits, tax benefits and equal families. Like in the Obergafell case were in the spouse dies, the surviving one, wanted to be listed the spouse.

  
Young people do not even realize that only a generation ago, gay people are getting arrested for being them selves. People today do not even realize that in many countries around the world, it is Illegal to be gay, it is even punishable by death. In America’s biggest friend in the Middle East, Saudi Arabia. America should do it with out Saudi, They really suck.

  
America has won on one of its biggest fronts ever. Is this the end of the story, off course it is not. There are a lot of things to be done. Like demolishing this so called religious freedom restoration act that some conservative states put down after their states recognizes marriage. And also the passage of the federal non-discrimination act because you can gay married on Sunday and be out of work on Monday.

   
 Lastly, as I said earlier the fight is not over. People need to keep it in check because if you do not be careful. If you have like president Rubio or Bush or Cruz, they can still do a marriage amendment that will prohibit. As their Last effort to derail EQUALITY.

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The State of Gay Rights Around the  World 

Joaquin Tenedora-Forte 

November 18, 2015

  
People in much of the western world never really thinks of marriage (equality) today, because they have marriage equality Already. You may probably do not realize that there are countries around the world, particularly in Africa and the Middle East that does not have equal treatment for the LGBT community, in some of these countries it is even illegal to be gay.

  
In much of Africa there are some laws on the books that is illegal to be gay. Why in 2015 you think? Because of their religion, there is something to blame there and the fact that most of Africa are poor. It Plays a very big factor on why their policies are, an uneducated countries are more likely to be conservative, and more likely to follow traditions.. 

  
The most homophobic countries are Uganda, Syria and Iraq (under the Islamic state and the US ally Saudi Arabia wow. they are killing gay people just for being gay. Those people are being killed for an arbitrary reason. They are killing gay people for religious reasons. In the case of Uganda it is Christianity and that rich pastors from the United States are donating money for their political interest. 

  
There are some countries that have softer laws against gay people. Like in the Philippines, although there is no partnership protections and no nationwide anti discrimination laws. At least in this country gay people are not being jailed. And that the people of the country are more accepting or at least tolerating of homosexuality. It is particularly evident in their films and their TV shows, where in there is at least one gay person on their Media. 

  
Lastly, Homosexuality is not a crime and not a sin, it is an arbitrary reason that can not be changed. The fight is not over for activist and advocates, even in the United States (land of the free) there is no law that protects you’re freedom to fully express the self. So, keep on fighting guys.

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LGBT Monday: The Closet 

Joaquin Tenedora-Forte 
November 9, 2015
In recent years the acceptance of gay people in our society is better than ever, More and more people are coming out of the closet as gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender. And It is a very good thing for people because the closet is a very lonely place, where depression is king and anxiety is queen. In today’s article I will be talking about the effects of being in the closet.

  
Compartmentalizing something as significant as your sexuality is damaging to the person in the closet, feeling of depression and anxiety is evident people who are closeted. They are lying to people who they love and what they do (for example, introducing someone as your friend and not your partner) like that. 

  
A historic prospective for you, back then people who are gay did not came out of the closet. People do play and play (have sex) in their 20’s and then they will marry a woman, have children and call it a day. The same time as the Stonewall riots in the 1960’s, people are starting to come out more and more. Gay people are more out there. 

  
People who came out of the closet are happier and more contented with themselves. They are not living a lie. People who came out are not likely  to be depress and anxious than people who are still in the closet. Furthermore the younger people came out of the closet live a much happier life’s.

  
Lastly, People have no place in the closet. People need to understand that by coming out of the closet, they are helping the gay community tremendously. Lastly it is not a rush coming out of the closet, when your ready to come outfcheck out my four tips on coming out: https://joaquinwriteseverything.wordpress.com/2015/10/12/lgbt-monday-tips-for-kids-on-how-to-come-out-of-the-closet/comment-page-1/#comment-

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Op-Ed:The effects of gay parenting on the child  

Joaquin Tenedora-Forte November 4, 2015
In the decision by the United States Supreme Court last June that states that marriage is a fundamental human right. The decision meant that a family with same sex parents will not be look down by the government. It also meant that gay people will have a good family life, so what are the effects if any: positive or negative to their children. 

  
In the history of studying this subject from the 1980’s till this day, there have been three stages of studies. In the 1980’s, the impacts are negative, they said that gay people adopting children will lead to all of the societal ills. To the 90’s where in the scientific community is divided. To today that they are in perfect agreement, that the modern family is good for children. 

  
In a consolidation analysis done by Northwestern University that states that gay parents are no more loving and caring than a traditional family. Furthermore the researchers say that there are some advantages to LGBT parenting like empathy for others because of the prejudices towards them. And the rejections of gender norms, because in a same sex household there is no man and woman, there are only parents.

  
According to the same study kids that are raise by lesbians did the best on all this test, empathy, higher grades in school and more. The theory is that two woman raising children are better because women are more caring and loving, and that lesbians are more likely to not cheat on their spouses. We all know that kids do well if the parents stay together.

  
Lastly, it is not about the plumbing but the love that they have for their kids. The love that a parents have for their son or daughter is unconditional. Finally 99 percent of gay people need to plan to have children, either thru adoption or thru IVF so as a result they will love and cherish the kids that they have

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LGBT Monday: You can get married on Sunday but get fired on Monday 

Joaquin Tenedora Forte 

November  2, 2015

After the Supreme Court’s historic ruling on marriage equality last June, the phrase “You can get gay married on Sunday and get gay fired on Monday” become more popular. This is very sad but true in 30 or more states because of the Supreme Court ruling you are allowed to get married but get Fired the very next day.

   
 According to the 14th amendment section II the equal protection clause, states that you have equal rights. Granting that when they write the provision the ratifiers are not thinking of gay people. But the constitution is a living document it evolves with the times. According, to one poll, 70 percent of Americans thinks that discrimination against gay people is unlawful, but in reality it is far from the truth.

  
The opponents of a federal non discrimination bill often states the religious freedom clause of the constitution i.e the first amendment. The fact is that Christians are not an oppressed group of people. Like in Indiana, there is a law that pass this year the Religious Freedom Restoration Act. The law is a slippery slope though because the bible can also be use to discriminate on everything not just gay people,

  
Marriage is not the end of the fight for equal rights for the LGBTQ community in America. There are a lot still to be done, like employment and housing non discrimination bill. In most states there are still no laws banning discrimination against LGBT people. Transgender people can not still be included in the military. (Trans folks can also serve in the military). Is that equality?

  
Finally, discrimination is bad and wrong. We should not discriminate against people base on an innate trait that we can not change. People are gay as they are straight. We should not deny people human rights. Lastly we have the inalienable right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. It should not be deny.

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Special: The importance of Marriage

 Joaquin Tenedora-Forte 

October 21, 2015

  
The institution of marriage is one of the most important things in the world. Marriage is the binding force of the family, the family is the basic unit of a government. Naturally there are certain laws in place to protect marriage and the family respectively. Since the US Supreme Court said that marriage is a basic human right, for gay and Straight people alike. In this article I will list four of the most important rights that are being denied to unmarried couples.

  
The ability to choose your next of keen- When you are a young and healthy individual, you will not consider this. But when dying at your death bed, unable to speak, you will see this come to life. Your husband or wife are your default next of keen. Not only for inheritance rights but also deciding on your behalf. You are saying like, step aside brothers and sisters he/she will take care of me.

  
The ability to petition your partner from another country- I believe that the person you love should be with you in the same bed at night. But before the Supreme Court said that DOMA sign by Bill Clinton in to law is unconstitutional. People could not petition the love of their to live America.

  
Inheritance rights- Before marriage, gay people have no right with their partners estate. They are literally strangers under the law because of that reality some gay people did extreme measures adoption. Adoption so that they will have a legal relationship.

  
Spousal benefits- before marriage equality people have no right to health, tax, social security and many more, in fact their are a thousand benefits that before marriage is out of reach for the LGBT community.

  
Lastly, marriage should be about love and commitment, not the sex of the persons involved. The couple should be able to love the person till death to they part. Finally, marriage is a fundamental human right because love is a foundational Hunan experience.

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