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My thoughts on Prostitution

Joaquin Tenedora-Forte

July 19, 2016

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As a libertarian, I believe in the freedom of the people to choose their paths. No government should say to it’s people, what to do. The only job of the government is to keep people safe at all times. And also as a liberal I totally believe in a government intervention to make people safe, Not like other libertarians. My topic today is prostitution. Here’s what I think about it.

The advancements in technology make it so possible of dating apps. So that the person can come there, find your self a “date” Do your thing, pay and move on with your merry lives. That is what prostitution is. it is the ability to have sex. For all its glory without ever meeting the person again.

In principle, I believe that prostitution (like drugs and everything else) should be legal. Sex work is one of the oldest jobs look up (hoar house) is consensual sex, between two consenting adults. Morally, I do not think that you can just have sex with random people. Sex should with someone you love. So I am so torn on prostitution.

Like I said in a post in February about the golden rule. That consent makes everything okay. It can be doctor assisted suicide or stealing or even sex. It will be okay to do that you do it, as long as you do it with consent. I totally subscribe to that idea. But to be honest, sex should be reserve to people who love each other.

I totally get people who will say that prostitution should be legal,.Because specially when you look at a town outside Las Vegas, Where it is legal the town, has many legal protection for people the STD rates are very low. I see also the point of the people who says that prostitution should be illegal So I am completely and utterly torn on this topic.

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Personal: Good Girls Don’t Wear suits and Ties: My Life As A Gender Non Conforming Person

Joaquin Tenedora-Forte
July 7, 2016

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Human beings have a way to make you feel unwelcome by their glances or their words. Since I was a little kid I did not fit in to the gender box of being a girl, oh by the way I am a girl and also have some people would deem a disability as I wrote on the eve of christmas eve, last year I have cerebral palsy yes double minority, for me that is really hard especially growing up.

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I grew up in a moderately catholic home in the Philippines, my parents with my mom a university professor and my father a businessman, I have one younger sister. my first memory of being gender non-conforming is hating barbie dolls, my knee jerk reaction is that I hated their hair, and I was about four. When I was about six years old my parents bought me mega blocks for my birthday. My sister and I played with it for at least seven years. I was always the boy character in our made-believe land.

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As I grow older I notice, I became more uncomfortable in girls outfits. in fact the last time I wore a dress at the mall is when I was 10 years old.  Also with my school uniform. I always have crushes on my boy classmates, but when I was 13 and in Grade six I became noticing a girl classmate, she is cute and our class valedictorian. I never made something of it.

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Christmas was always been a special day for my family, but their is this one christmas I had vivid memories of. (here’s the deal, Filipinos open gifts on christmas eve,) so I opened my presents, I look at my seven year old nephew’s gifts and I started tearing up, because I never gotten what I wanted but what I wanted is the toys he had. It will be so embarrassing for me to cry so I held my tears up.

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At around fourteen, my baby cousin is two and he began learning his words. As a gender non conforming kid, I was always wearing typical  boy clothing. he will call me Kuya, Kuya is a tagalog word for older  brother, cousin or whatever. Of course my aunt and uncle is not thrilled with me. As if I was confusing their son. looking back on it my responds will be, is their a problem, and you should be teaching your kid about acceptance. But they will never do that because they are evangelical christians.

When I was 16 years old, my school had a prom, my 3rd year in high school. I was not planning on going to this prom because I am not wearing a gown!. My dad ask my principal if I could wear something else. the principal said Yes. And I wore a suit to the prom. When I wore that I felt so good about myself. But years after the prom i fell so ashamed, until recently, I said to myself there is nothing to feel ashamed about, that’s who I am.

 

My family had been so awesome to me especially my mom and my dad  after high school graduation they enrolled me in my mom’s former school, my first reaction (an open university type deal) where in you do your assignments at home and will email it to your teachers, I hated it at first, but today I love the freedom of expression I get from not being a subject to gender norms.

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If I will thank someone who will it be, it will be my grandmother, who when one christmas I was wearing a vest and a tie. And my mom was talking to her about me. She turn to my mom and said. Ning, that’s okay, she looks good. My grandmother is the one who bought me all the boy shirts when I was a kid. She is so awesome.

If I have an advice for people who are like me or who have children like me just let your children be themselves. And the world will catch up with your identities, because you are born this way and people who say is not your friends.

Lastly, to makes things clear the name Joaquin is not my actual birth name but the last name is. since 2 years ago I have been using it. After my sister and I was talking to my dad about names if we were boys he said that he would name me Joaquin, so I started using the name.

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We are on a spectrum

Joaquin Tenedora-Forte

June 30,2016

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This week my mom was watching Kapuso Mo Jessica Soho a Philippine magazine show, and there is this couple, who are deaf, who looks so cute. My mom made a comment about the guy and and told me: Oh he is X-gay. As a LGBT rights activist. I said to myself, NO he is not, he is just bisexual.

This person is not gay, he maybe bisexual or even straight. Not all cross dressers are gay. Gender expression is different than sexual orientation, its in different sides of our brains. You can be a heterosexual person who likes wearing clothing that are for girls from time to time. And furthermore their are gay men who have nothing to do with girl clothes.

As we all probably know their is this thing called the Kinsey Scale of Sexuality. It was created in 1948 by an American Psychologist name Alfred Kinsey. It was very revolutionary though because back in the 1940’s being not heterosexual is a crime.

The Kinsey scale is from zero which is exclusively heterosexual, to six which is exclusively homosexual. Kinsey notice that most of the people in his study are somewhere in between. And that a little over ten percent are exclusively homosexual. And that you can not change your sexuality.

So why does this person identify as gay, if he is bi or even straight. This person is who he says he is. If you came from a small town with no access to the internet. You may not know about being bisexual. Gender Identity is different than sexual orientation. As I stated earlier, People who like to wear dresses does not equate to being gay.

Lastly, being LGBT is not a choice, that you made, being LGBT is inborn. And no one can change people sexual orientation, its like just being straight.

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Reacting to Will Shepherd’s PTSD video

Joaquin Tenedora-Forte
June 23, 2016

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I have been meaning to write this article/letter since last week. But Because of what happen in Orlando. I delay it. Will Shepherd had been a huge part of my life for the last year. He and his spouse RJ thought me that fighting for gay rights is the right thing to do. Will has PTSD and will be suffering from a mental illness for his entire life. This is my letter of appreciation to Will.
Dear Will,

First of all, I want to say that I have daily vlogs withdrawal for a month now, haha. But I know that you are at a better place right now. Because of your PTSD you may have a hard time vlogging. I know that this is the right thing to do for you.

You and RJ have shared bits and pieces of your mental health journey in the daily vlogs. But we (your viewers) did not know how much you suffer in the hands of somebody who supposed to love and protect you.

The PTSD video is so powerful and painful at the same time. I applaud your honesty in the video. I may not have PTSD, but I know that the abuse that you encountered is no joke. The people who new must protect you. The person who did it should go to prison.

Will, Your a such a strong person. Many people might say, screw it I am not dealing with this I will not excel at school or worse I will just take my own life, no one cares if I die.But with you, you own your happiness, that is what is great about you.

I just want to thank you for what you did, the video for me is one of the best I ever seen in a long while. Also for the daily vlogs. You thought me to be brave and to own my happiness.

Send my love to RJ

Love
JOAQUIN

PS, You should really change your last name to Aguiar

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Second Amendment: Hidden History

Joaquin Tenedora-Forte

June 21, 2016

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Last week america had an incident,the worst mass shooting in its history and the worst terrorist attack since September 11, 2001. In Orlando Florida,  in a LGBT night club. Naturally people blame the second amendment and america’s lacks gun laws in this incident. In todays blog we are talking about the hidden history of the gun amendment also known as the second amendment.

I did not know this I just heard this on Kyle Kulinski’s show Secular Talk a radio show on the internet last week. He mention that the second amendment is use to preserve slavery. Wow. I can not get that out of my mind. Obviously I rush to the internet and research the history of this amendment, to my surprise Kyle is right.

So why is it that they put “a well regulated  militia necessary for a free state” instead of for a free country, the founders are aware of that though. (Please check out the 10th amendment) because the needed to preserve slavery to get Virginia to join the union, America needed to compromise, because Virginia is a slave state.

The line where there is the right of the people to keep and bare arms is use, to the people of the militia or slave patrol, it did not say individual. In the these states their’s slave patrol so you need guns. The slave owner wants to make sure that that there slaves are in check. Do not tell me that it says individual because it does not.

What the supreme court on the case District of Columbia vs Heller is wrong, because people do not have a right to buy guns. The justices give the gun lobby namely the NRA more power than it deserves. You have no right according to James Madison to a weapon of mass distraction.

Lastly, people died in an elementary school,  in a high school, in universities, in a movie theatre, a church, in a work place, now the latest is in a night club. Is this added to Americas great traditions.

Finally, What the heck! america. Please stop with all the shootings. Let us think of people that died, guys. To the senators who voted NO to basically stoping a shooting like this from ever happening again: YOU HAVE BLOOD ON YOUR HANDS.`

My source:The Second Amendment was Ratified to Preserve Slavery

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WE ARE ORLANDO

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The culture is what fuels this….

Joaquin Tenedora-Forte

June 16, 2016

As you probably know by now there have been a shooting in a gay bar in Orlando Florida Sunday 12 June, which killed 49 individuals. This is the worst mass shooting in American History and the worst terrorist attack since 9/11. As the LGBT community morns the loss of its members. We as a people need to talk about the culture.

Sunday evening, I was watching liberal talker Ceynk Uger of The Young Turks, talking about the massacre and he said an interesting point about the American culture, that the american culture for the most part is anti gay. That the bible has done more harm than good in the lives of the people.

What I mean of that is religion affects mass media and politics, (i hope it did not affect) because America is a secular nation, Since recently the News outlets did not paint the LGBT community in the lightest of brush In movies they are always the laughing stuck from the 60s thru the late 1990s. Even liberal hollywood fall prey to this massive homophobia for off course their profit. No wonder their are people who think that the LGBT community is wrong.

Let us not forget that this culture in his home because according to at least one website he had went to the night club, and he have an account in one dating app. He might be gay or bisexual, and the thing is I felt so sad after I read this, because this is what fuels the kind of rhetoric that certainly is about hate in america and beyond.

This is why crazy people should not obtain a gun, The problem of guns in america is the worse I ever did see, Its gun deaths are off the charts, because they just have politicians who will defend the second amendment to death. Even if as we all know that is what the second amendment is. And then there is Donald Trump what can I say, he is a really bad person.

People died during the deadliest gun massacre in american history. I want to list their names. These are friends. brothers, sisters, This is about the victims not the suspect

Do not FORGET:

Stanley Almodovar III, 23 years old

Amanda Alvear, 25 years old

Oscar A Aracena-Montero, 26 years old

Rodolfo Ayala-Ayala, 33 years old

Antonio Davon Brown, 29 years old

Darryl Roman Burt II, 29 years old

Angel L. Candelario-Padro, 28 years old

Juan Chevez-Martinez, 25 years old

Luis Daniel Conde, 39 years old

Cory James Connell, 21 years old

Tevin Eugene Crosby, 25 years old

Deonka Deidra Drayton, 32 years old

Simon Adrian Carrillo Fernandez, 31 years old

Leroy Valentin Fernandez, 25 years old

Mercedez Marisol Flores, 26 years old

Peter O. Gonzalez-Cruz, 22 years old

Juan Ramon Guerrero, 22 years old

Paul Terrell Henry, 41 years old

Frank Hernandez, 27 years old

Miguel Angel Honorato, 30 years old

Javier Jorge-Reyes, 40 years old

Jason Benjamin Josaphat, 19 years old

Eddie Jamoldroy Justice, 30 years old

Anthony Luis Laureanodisla, 25 years old

Christopher Andrew Leinonen, 32 years old

Alejandro Barrios Martinez, 21 years old

Brenda Lee Marquez McCool, 49 years old

Gilberto Ramon Silva Menendez, 25 years old

Kimberly Morris, 37 years old

Akyra Monet Murray, 18 years old

Luis Omar Ocasio-Capo, 20 years old

Geraldo A. Ortiz-Jimenez, 25 years old

Eric Ivan Ortiz-Rivera, 36 years old

Joel Rayon Paniagua, 32 years old

Jean Carlos Mendez Perez, 35 years old

Enrique L. Rios, Jr., 25 years old

Jean C. Nives Rodriguez, 27 years old

Xavier Emmanuel Serrano Rosado, 35 years old

Christopher Joseph Sanfeliz, 24 years old

Yilmary Rodriguez Solivan, 24 years old

Edward Sotomayor Jr., 34 years old

Shane Evan Tomlinson, 33 years old

Martin Benitez Torres, 33 years old

Jonathan Antonio Camuy Vega, 24 years old

Juan P. Rivera Velazquez, 37 years old

Luis S. Vielma, 22 years old

Franky Jimmy Dejesus Velazquez, 50 years old

Luis Daniel Wilson-Leon, 37 years old

Jerald Arthur Wright, 31 years old

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America: Stop with all the shootings

Joaquin Tenedora-Forte

June 14, 2016

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When something like this happened, I am become completely numb about shootings like this, it’s just another shooting in america. This one is no deferent at first, Sunday morning I was checking my twitter. I saw there have been another shooting in orlando. Not again I said to my self, This is like deja vu because there is one Friday night, But as I read the twits, the news: I said to my self WOW this is unbelievable. 50 people are dead Wow, What is unsettling is who the victims are. This is in a gay club. Wow

The question always when this happen is Why? This is a hate crime, this person wants to bring fear to the gay community. His father said he hated gays kissing. This is one of the effects of radical religious believe, even if its not direct. People need to stop defending islam.

I hate when people say: Oh its there culture blah blah blah. You mean it’s there culture to kill innocent people because they do not agree with their “LIFESTYLE”. I hate this so much, this well meaning people, this are liberal progressive people. I know muslims have a bad wrap in america, but duh….

Do not get me started on the gun issue, Here we go again, America, after the Sandy Hook shootings which killed young kids, I thought the lesson had been learned. We need it, but as we all know the NRA will not be happy. What we need is what Bernie Sanders advocates for, A POLITICAL REVOLUTION. To people who say the we can not do it because gun control, Republicans do not want it, excuse me, people who identify as Republicans, I mean your run of a mill republicans want gun control.

The problem is the Democratic Party, Who does not know how to promote shit (sorry for the vulgar language). I can not believe  after Sandy Hook and 90 percent of Americans support gun control. After only one try they gave up. What the heck! If I were the democrats I would say to the electorate look at the republicans, they do not represent you, and I will start from there.

Finally, This is very sad because first this month is LGBT pride month and it should be a fun occasion but secondly this hits so close to home,  I never had spoken about this before on this blog but I am Bisexual. People need to come out because if they do it will help the send a message that we are who we and are no one can stop us.

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5 Important LGBT events

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Joquin Tenedora-Forte

June 9, 2016

As we all probably know this month is LGBT pride month. We are celebrating LGBT history, It is this month that we talk about what happen during the marriage inequality. we do answer where we are today if it’s not for the people who sacrifice in order for us to live our life as it is. so I am here to discuss three major events that happened in LGBT history.

  1. Stonewall uprising- Stonewall was not the first uprising of the  gay movement, it was the major one though because it was broadcast all over the america. In the early morning of June 28, 1969, there have been rioting at a gay bar own by the mafia, The police raided the bar, but gay men and women fought back, The next day the cops come again, but the LGBT people fought hard.
  1. AIDS epidemic- The AIDS epidemic is the hardest thing that happened to LGBT people particularly gay men.Because of the erasure of the gay community, by people like President Ronald Reagan who never spoken about the AIDS epidemic until the late 80’s

3.   The election and assignation of Harvey Milk- Harvey Milk is the first     openly gay state supervisor. He was a true leader. But after only a year of he was assented by former state supervisor Dan White.

4. Lawrence Vs. Texas case 2003- This is in my opinion is the most important case in LGBT history, because when you can not legalise some that is illegal to begin with. i.e. same sex marriage. It came one year before Massachusetts became the the first to legalise marriage between two people of the same gender.

5. Marriage equality -2015.,  Obergafell vs Hudges, this is the happiest case in gay history, This is the culmination of four and a half decades of fighting for recognition. Recognition of Life and Love from Stonewall onwards.

So this are five events that change the corse of a generation. What are your favourite LGBT events Tweet me @joaquinwrites. Please you may not forget them….

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Happy Pride Month

Pride special: History of LGBT Pride

Joaquin Tenedora-Forte

@joaquinwrites

June 2, 2016

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As we probably know this month, the month of June is LGBT pride month the month when we celebrate LGBT history. And this month I will be writing about the pillars of the Gay Liberation movement.

The term Gay Pride came about in the 1940s and 1950’s where in at this point LGBT people are shame. The  gay movement did some annual remainder during the 4th of July celebrations.’

In 1968 the father of the gay rights movement Frank Kamhney, after doing the white house picketing for years, he created a slogan gay is good, pattern after black is beautiful.

The biggest straggle is with the police, for years they made life harder for LGBT people in the 1950’s and 60’s. By 1969 the LGBT community was fed up by police raids, another pivotal thing in New York Greenwich Village happened. LGBT people of all walks of life came together that faithful June early morning to protest the police brutality.

less than a year after the Stonewall riots on November 2, 1969 Craig Rodwell propose that the pride march will be held in New York instead of in Philadelphia like they normally do until that point,  the LGBT community organise a ‘rally’ like the one they used to do, in New York Greenwich village. It was set on June of the next year. The organisers were surprise at the worm welcome by the bystanders at the parade.

Year after year the cities that celebrate pride grow, the first cities to adopt include San Francisco and Chicago. By the year 2000 former President Bill Clinton recognise the LGBT movement in a proclamation. As of today LGBT pride is celebrated in every continent of the globe.

As we celebrate LGBT pride month, we should remember people, people who fought for the freedom to be you.

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This Week in LGBT: Why boycotts don’t do anything

Joaquin Tenedora-Forte

April 19, 2016

This month North Carolina overwhelmingly passed a bill that prevents any city from passing a law that protects LGBT people, Transgender people are the most affected the law, and that they are being ban from going to their of bathroom of preferred gender. The gay community is obviously very outrage and sadden by this backwards bill.

There has been a lot of backlash, boycotts had been called. People had been very angry and mad. Ringo Starr and Bruce Springsteen had said that they are boycotting, they are are not going to play in North Carolina. Boycotts are a waste of time, I sed to love boycotts but after I listen to Academy award winner screenwriter Dustin Lance Black give a speech I change my mind.

Do not get me wrong what happen in North Carolina really is a set back for the transgender community. And we should support ever effort to repel that amendment. Boycotting will just make it worse. because it shows the people who do not want equality that the gay community and its supporters are authoritarians. And that the gay community wants to ban their religion and it is not good.

The gay community need to accept that the fact this is the law of the land in North Carolina. What we should do is we should do what the fight for marriage equality is very successful in doing. They gay community should fill a law suit and battle it out in the court and may the best argument wins. I know for a fact we will win. because this strategist worked.

The problem after the US has gotten marriage the gay groups become lazy. As if they do not want to finish the job that they started interns of the Non Discrimination laws and The Transgender Bathroom Bill. We should finish what we started.

The LGBT community should wake up because people are still suffering in many parts of the US. Finally I want to literate that marriage is not the end of all the problems. The gay community needs to be able to fix themselves.

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